My fiance and I live together, but as we haven’t combined finances yet, split all costs down the center. When it comes to shopping, this typically means we go together and split the final total between the two of us. Never had a problem with this at other stores before, mainly because most cashiers do this all the time (i.e. splitting a purchase between two debit cards).
About a week ago we made our monthly Sam’s club run, which went fine until we got to the check out. We always like to make sure its okay to split the total purchase before stuff gets rung up, so I asked the cashier (a young man) if we could split the purchase between two cards. He didn’t understand what I was asking, so I elaborated, “Is it okay if we ring everything up and put it on two separate cards?” He told me that we’d have to do two separate purchases to put it on separate store cards, which is not what I meant. At this point, my fiance said, “No, what she meant is that we want to split the final purchase between two credit cards.” Cashier finally gets it and starts ringing everything up.
Once we get the total, I figure out what half is, and tell the cashier that’s what we want put on the first card. Once again, blank stare. I repeat, “I want to put X amount on the first card please.” His reply – “Oh, I thought he would have picked up a larger amount since he’s the guy and all.” He then turned to my fiance and said, “Are you sure you want her to pay for this much of the purchase? Probably spending your money anyway!” I gave him a disbelieving look and said, “We split everything. Always have. Sometimes I even pay for everything.” Fiance just glared at him. He expressed further shock when I (*gasp*) paid first, saying, “Wow, letting her pay first! What a gentleman.”
So, even though I actually have more money than my fiance, and we believe in splitting anything we’ll both use (cleaning supplies, food, etc) evenly, I’m just spending his money because I have a vagina. Not to mention nothing made sense when I said it, and God forbid I do anything before a man does it! I rarely complain about how employees at stores such as this act, but I did report his behavior to customer service (who said he would get reprimanded, and I got a small gift card). I guess I should have expected it though. I mean, a woman spending her own money and contributing equally to her household? Psh. I guess it’s #MFIF