My sister-in-law’s fiancé has known me for nearly 3 years and he’s always known my husband and I aren’t going to have kids. My sister-in-law has always been cool with it since she’s known about my husband’s decision about kids for 10 or so years and respects our choice. He, however, thinks of wives as baby factories. They want to get pregnant as soon as they’re married and he thinks we should have done the same thing. He even said to me in July that I should have been in the hospital with a baby boy because we’d been married for 9 months, give or take a week. No matter what we say, he keeps trying to talk me into popping one out.
If their friends are over and they have a baby, we’ll get an impromptu invite to their place but he won’t tell us there’s a child there. If we go, he then tries to get me to hold or play with the baby. I’ll tell the parents that the baby is cute so as not to offend them and say I’m just getting over a cold so I shouldn’t hold the baby just in case. He’ll then start the insentient nagging about the joys of motherhood. He’s even had the nerve to tell me that I’ll never be a ‘real’ or ‘fulfilled’ woman until I have kids and that I shouldn’t bother working anymore because I should get used to spending my days at home when (not if, when) we have a baby.
When he realizes that isn’t working on me, he switches to the guilt method, saying things like “What about all those people out there that can’t have children?”. I feel sorry for those people, I really do, but just because I have the ability to do something doesn’t mean I have to do it.
The crazy amount of nagging to have children is annoying, but what really frustrates me is the fact that he never gives my husband a hard time about it. It’s somehow my fault that we as individuals came the the decision that we don’t want children before we even knew each other.
I understand that some women feel they were put on this earth to be a mother and want to have children with every fiber of their being, but I’m simply not one of them.
Anyway, I guess I should head to bed and get myself pregnant because it’s my ‘duty’ and it’s #MFIF
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