One Sunday afternoon, me and two friends were on our way to see a couple of choirs perform at a local church. My male friend was driving and the only other person in the car was female. For reasons I cannot possibly fathom, when we drove past an attractive young girl on the sidewalk, minding her own damn business and not dressed perfectly normally, he saw it necessary to yell “Sexy bitch!” out the window to her.
I was completely dumbstruck, I couldn’t believe that a guy I knew, that I thought was a friendly, reasonably intelligent guy, had just done that. I hate guys that do that with a passion, particularly because often when it happens to me, I’m walking home, alone, at night, and a car full of blokes goes by at top speed, yelling something indistinguishable which may or may not have included the word ‘whore’. It makes me feel scared, and hugely angry.
It has in the past made me break down in tears on the street. Which might sound oversensitive, but I have a real thing about being made to feel weak, or ineffective – which is exactly what those guys do.
I told him as much. His respone “Nah, it’s a compliment, they’re saying you’re hot.”