One of my close friends and me are both pregnant, and due at the end of the year within a few days of each other. Our partners are old friends and we spend a lot of time together.
Unfortunately this other couple have very sexist views on pregnancy and babies, which makes me feel extremely uncomfortable and pretty angry.
For example, they’re finding out the sex of the baby this week – just so they can colour co-ordinate clothes. My friend says that as the bedroom is currently blue, if they have a girl they’ll have to redecorate (because heaven forbid a newborn girl should have blue carpet!). She keeps asking why I don’t want to know the sex of our baby, as in her words “But what colour baby clothes will you buy and what colour will the room be?” Again, heaven forbid that I shouldn’t be stereotyping my newborn child!
The final straw for me was a few days ago – we were at a pub with a big group of friends (many of whom already have kids themselves so should know better). Friend’s partner has been adamant all along that their baby MUST be a boy, such comments as “Because older sisters are bullies” and “A big brother can protect a little sister” being good, solid reasons. Anyway, when discussing the scan this week, he said “I’m practising my disappointed face in case we find out we’re Team Pink.” (in other words, expecting a girl). The men in the group roared with laughter.
I was too shocked to say anything at the time, but when I got home I ranted at my husband about how disgusting and disgraceful an attitude it was and actually how sorry I felt for that unborn baby if it is a girl. To be fair to him, he hadn’t laughed when the other guys did, but he did say “Some things aren’t meant for women’s ears.”
Here I was, thinking these kind of disgusting sexist attitudes towards unborn girls was something abhorrent, but I guess it’s #MFIF!
Shouting Woman, UK