I’ll preface the story say simply stating I’m a male feminist.
I have a fairly equal smattering of both male and female friends, and I love them all to death. There are times however when my male friends seem to lose all tact whatsoever around (or behind the backs of) my female friends. It’s embarrassing to say the very least.
Once a male schoolmate came in to see my work for the first time, I work in a pretty cool record joint so visiting friends is totally acceptable. He and I were just shooting the shit when one of my female co-workers who is also a dear friend came up to me, announced she was going home for the evening, gave me a hug and left. I bade her good night, and as she walked out, my friend from school’s eyes almost jumped out of his head and followed her ass out the door. He turned to look at me again and exclaimed loudly, in front of the rest of my friends and co-workers “Damn! I’d love to take THAT ass home!”
There is no polite way to dance around a comment like that.
I became very stern with him, and said “excuse me? Dude, that’s my friend, and she’s also a person, show some damn respect.”
He did not take what I said seriously at all, and was too smug to suck it up and apologize for his comment.
I mean… I understand that we’re men, okay? and men are attracted to women. I’m not some fucking eunuch who’s scared to acknowledge a beautiful woman, which… my friend most definitely is, in spades, but why do you think I’m okay with hearing you talk about my friends this way? Cuz she’s a lady, and somehow, therefore less deserving of respect, it’s all good to simply announce your crude intentions to bone her? I guess I should be agreeing with you and joining in with your witty banter, because I’m a man, and I only have female friends because I intend to bone them myself. That’s why men have female friends in the first place, right? What a fucking loser.
Interesting addendum. This guy is fucking lucky that he only received MY vitriol, because if SHE had heard him say that… holy crap… he’d have had all kindsa new assholes torn into him. #MFIF
Knave Murdok, California, USA