A few weeks ago, my boyfriend and I were in a local club. As we squeezed past a group of men, one of them reached down and squeezed my arse. I was wearing daisy dukes, so his hand basically slipped under them – it was pretty much a full on grope.
I froze for a second, then realised that my choice was between causing a scene or feeling awful about myself for not saying anything. So, I turned around and screamed “WHAT THE FUCK?!”
Another girl, who had nothing to do with either me or with the guys in question grabbed both me and my boyfriend. She told me to “calm down, yeah? Just have fun, yeah?”
My burst of anger and self-confidence fizzled out, and we left a few minutes later. I did mention the incident to the security guards on the way out, and they were extremely helpful and supportive, but we couldn’t locate that group in the club, since it had been a few minutes.
Silly me, for causing a scene. I’d forgotten that women are supposed to suck it up and just “have fun, yeah?”. Guess it must be #MFIF.
Kali, Birmingham, UK