Seeing as I work slightly less than 40 hours/week , and as a school librarian who has school holidays off, I am the one who does most of the home upkeep. Not the chores, mind you, those we split fairly equitably, but the to do list of little repairs and improvements.
I spend a lot of time at home improvement stores during the summer, and EVERY SINGLE TIME I go alone, someone makes a comment about me being a girl doing this sort of stuff. Either I am getting ‘complimented’ on being ‘brave’ for getting the parts for a leaking faucet (and a condescending ‘well good for you for trying it’ when I said I would be the one fixing it, not the husband they asked about), or I get the blank stare of disbelief for asking where the mortar is and a ‘are you sure you want to do a project like that?’.
I have walked into an aisle with male customers also in it, and had employees walk past them to ask if I need help and can they explain anything to me.
And if I don’t go alone? They talk to my husband. Always, even if I asked the questions. At one point my husband stopped a guy and said ‘look, talk to her, she’s the one who does this stuff, I’m just here to have an opinion.’ And the guy seemed completely thrown by it.
Of course, it’s #MFIF
The Handy Girl in AZ