I have a very creepy male neighbor who has left a number of notes on my door saying things like, “You are so beautiful,” and “I still think you are beautiful, you keep me up at night.” At first, all I knew was that someone was watching me on a regular basis, and the notes were benign, so I installed another lock on my door, bought some pepper spray, and went about my business.
I continued to receive notes, and eventually I figured out the identity of my watcher – a guy in the condo across from mine. His living room sliding glass door and mine face each other. When I Googled him, I ran across an exceptionally alarming blog featuring unexpectedly violent vignettes. Of particular concern was a story told from the perspective of a guy walking his dog, who sees a stunning female stranger across the street. The guy then looks down at the dog, and when he looks back up, the beautiful stranger has stepped into traffic and been killed instantly. Another one ended with a shattered vodka bottle lodged in the throat of the guy’s girlfriend.
Needless to say, this guy frightens me. I called the police to ask for advice – should I file a report, can I obtain a stalking protective order, do you have any other recommendations, etc. The officer I spoke with asked me what the notes said, so I read some of them. His response? “Well. Maybe you ARE beautiful.” SO NOT THE POINT.
I guess every male who sees me has the right to watch me secretly, and repeatedly state his opinion of my looks, even when his manner of doing so terrifies me and keeps me inside with the shades drawn most of the time. In fact, as long as a guy thinks I’m beautiful, what could I possibly have to complain about? I should be grateful a dude (a) thinks I’m hot, and (b) cares enough to let me know. And honestly, what else can I expect, what with my coming and going from work every day? I’m asking for it, obviously. #MFIF
AEH, Oregon, USA