I found this awesome website recently where women can post stories of the day to day misogyny we experience. It’s everything from outright sexual assault right down to the little petty instances of male privilege – assumptions about how we’ll look or dress or behave, what might or might not be inside our wombs, generalisations about whether we can fix a car, the stuff every woman hears every day. It’s the internet equivalent of a wry smile on the tube with a stranger over a common experience.
Then in the comments I kept seeing a blanket statement from a man, “This isn’t sexist” followed by a brief paragraph where he gives some fatuous explanation of how it might not have been intended as sexism.
That’s the point. It might not be intended to be sexist – hell, some men think street harassment is flattery – but it all stems from a belief that women are in some way inferior.
A bit like, say, believing that only a man can come along and be the arbiter or what is and isn’t sexist. I thought women were in a better position to say how we feel about stuff, rather than waiting for a man to come and tell us how we should feel about stuff, but I guess that’s #OFWF.