Yet more police stupidity


Several years ago, after a walk with an old friend, I got into my car. Then he stood next to the driver’s side door while we chatted a little longer through the open car window. A group of teenagers with guns showed up and wanted not just the car, but us too. Through some fast thinking and good luck, my friend and I managed to get away within about 15 or 20 minutes. I was badly bruised and scraped from tumbling out of a moving car, but we were more or less okay.

As I rode to the hospital in a police car, the (male) officer driving the car told me that women are far more likely than men to be carjacked “since women take too long to get on their way; they always have to play with the radio or put on lipstick or something.” I guess it’s #MFIF


12 Responses to “Yet more police stupidity”

  1. Slackermagee Says:

    Gotta say… that’s actually good advice from the cop. His wording and manner seem way off but no dilly-dallying when you have all the components needed to run a car in one place sounds right.

  2. snobographer Says:

    Well, also, if you’re going to commit a crime that relies on intimidation, you’re going to choose a victim whose ass you can kick.

  3. Kris Says:

    I know my first urge when I get in the car at the END of the night is to sit and put on some lipstick…

    But wow, what an ordeal. I’m glad everything turned out more or less all right for you, that must have been awful.

  4. hadge Says:

    Is it illegal to tell a cop to stfu?

  5. Liza Says:

    What he told you was true, despite the politically incorrect delivery. Were you more scarred by the cop’s advice than by being carjacked?

    • Brittany-Ann Says:

      What’s worse, having a crime committed against you, or your supposed allies/protectors/public servants turning around and stabbing you in the back?

      Look at it this way. What hurts more: a stranger doing something horrible to you, or someone you love, trust, and respect doing something horrible to you?

      If you still don’t get it, I’d clear your brain of all of those conservative buzzwords and linked prejudices.

      • The Heff Says:

        So offering advice on how to protect yourself from being a victim of crime is ‘stabbing you in the back’. I think that’s stretching things a little.

        If you were a woman (or a man) walking down a street openly counting out money and someone stole it from you, then you might expect some ‘advice’ from the police on how to aviod this happening in future.

        When I read these stories I try and think ‘what would happen if this was a man?’. A lot of the time there is genuine offence/insensitivity/boorishness at play. But if women ARE more likely to be car-jacked (I don’t know, are they?) then there must be a reason for it. To have a go at the police officer who is helping you seems a cheap shot.

  6. JenniferRuth Says:

    The people Herr defending the cops horribly sexist attitude are victim blamers. You went through a horrible ordeal and the cop practically said it was your fault for being female with the implication that men don’t play with the radio and always get on their way immediately. I’m glad that you escaped relatively unharmed.

  7. Dude Says:

    That must have been horrifying. And pep talk from captian sensitive probably didn’t help either.

    • The Heff Says:

      Two posts ago everyone was laying into the police for not doing anything. Now they’re scum because they’ve tried to offer some advice.

      • Ryah Says:

        What you and those that support the ‘advice’ of the cop are doing is victim blaming.

        Police officers are not there to interpret the law, they are there to enforce the law. Giving advice does not defend those in need of help. This woman sought HELP, she sought for action, and what she received instead was a dismissive insult to her intelligence. The officer failed to do his fundamental roll, to protect.

        Owning a car should not be viewed as open invitation to rob or molest someone. Owning anything, money, expensive clothing, a nice home, owning ones time (for that was what this woman was doing, she had ever right to do with her time as she pleased, whether it was to visit with her friend by her car or to simply be on her way) does not excuse any one from making someone feel afraid, from violating or harming them. To do otherwise is to say in some way the criminal was compelled to hurt someone, that it’s not the criminal’s fault. This way of thinking solves none of the problems at hand, for whether or not a woman dilly-daleys does not determine if she will be subject to a car jacking – if that were the case it would be so easy to eliminate crime altogether. What we should do is view this as the act it was, an egregious wrong doing, on the part of the criminal, followed by more inappropriateness on the part of the officer, without victimizing the victim more.

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